A Concerned Mother's Letter to Teenage Girls
SEPTEMBER 10, 2013
After seeing pictures of her sons' friends online and being shocked by how provocative they were, one mother wrote a wise letter to all teenage girls online. Read her original post below:
I have some information that might interest you. Last night, as we sometimes do, our family sat around the dining-room table and looked through the summerâs social media photos.
We have teenage sons, and so naturally there are quite a few pictures of you lovely ladies to wade through. Wow â you sure took a bunch of selfies in your skimpy pjâs this summer! Your bedrooms are so cute! Our eight-year-old daughter brought this to our attention, because with three older brothers who have rooms that smell like stinky cheese, she notices girly details like that.
I think the boys notice other things. For one, it appears that you are not wearing a bra.
I get it â youâre in your room, so youâre heading to bed, right? But then I canât help but notice the red carpet pose, the extra-arched back, and the sultry pout. Whatâs up? None of these positions is one I naturally assume before sleep, this I know.
So, hereâs the bit that I think is important for you to realize. If you are friends with a Hall boy on Facebook or Instagram or Twitter, then you are friends with the whole Hall family.
Please know that we genuinely like staying connected with you this way! We enjoy seeing things through your unique and colorful lens â you are insightful, and often very, very funny.
Which is what makes your latest self-portrait so extremely unfortunate.
That post doesnât reflect who you are at all! We think you are lovely and interesting, and usually very smart. But, we had to cringe and wonder what you were trying to do? Who are you trying to reach? What are you trying to say?
And now â big bummer â we have to block your posts. Because, the reason we have these (sometimes awkward) family conversations around the table is that we care about our sons, just as we know your parents care about you.
I know your family would not be thrilled at the thought of my teenage boys seeing you only in your towel. Did you know that once a male sees you in a state of undress, he canât quickly un-see it? You donât want our boys to only think of you in this sexual way, do you?
Neither do we. Weâre all more than that.
And so, in our house, there are no second chances with pics like that, ladies. We have a zero tolerance policy. I know, so lame. But, if you want to stay friendly with our sons online, youâll have to keep your clothes on, and your posts decent. If you post a sexy selfie (we all know the kind), or an inappropriate YouTube video â even once â itâs curtains.
I know that sounds so old-school, but we are hoping to raise men with a strong moral compass, and men of integrity donât linger over pictures of scantily clad high-school girls.
Every day I pray for the women my boys will love. I hope they will be drawn to real beauties, the kind of women who will leave them better people in the end. I also pray that my sons will be worthy of this kind of woman, that they will be patient â and act honorably â while they wait for her.
Girls, itâs not too late! If you think youâve made an on-line mistake (we all do â donât fret â Iâve made some doozies, even today!), RUN to your accounts and take down the closed-door bedroom selfies that makes it too easy for friends to see you in only one dimension.
Will you trust me? There are boys out there waiting and hoping for women of character. Some young men are fighting the daily uphill battle to keep their minds pure, and their thoughts praiseworthy â just like you.
You are growing into a real beauty, inside and out.
Act like her, speak like her, post like her.Mrs. Hall Source