When Kelly Howland went to the store with her newborn baby, she was probably expecting her tiny, adorable daughter to get a lot of attention from fellow shoppers.
What she didn't expect, however, was to be approached by another woman who was trying to sell her weight loss products when it was clear that she had just given birth. While Howland knew the woman was just doing her job, she was also well aware that she had been specifically chosen for the sales pitch because of her postpartum body.
That's why she took to Facebook to talk about the unrealistic expectations that society has for moms and their physical appearances after bringing new life into the world. Her message is something we all need to hear.
"We all know that this culture hammers into postpartum women a lot of physical insecurity about their bodies after delivering their miracles from their wombs. I don't think I have to spell out for a single woman the cultural pressure that postpartum mothers face regarding their physical appearance. We know. We all know. She knew. And that's why she approached me," she said.
"Can we PLEASE not perpetuate the pressure, the impossible expectations, and therefore keep alive the insecurities that we newly postpartum women face regarding our new and changing bodies as we enter motherhood? Instead of leaning into superficial ideals imposed upon us, can we PLEASE start bucking the system and instead start praising each other for being the amazing, life giving, creation birthing vessels that we are?"
"Can we just offer each other adoration of the amazing things that we've accomplished and see our physical changes as marks of phenomenal accomplishment that only our sex has the privilege of experiencing? My body doesn't need to be wrapped or squeezed or changed. It needs to be valued and revered for the incredible life it just brought into this world. THAT is beauty and THAT is all it needs."