Nothing kills the bedroom mood faster than the fear of your kid running through the door. However, just because you're a parent doesn't mean you can't have an awesome sex life! You just have to get creative.
It's ironic that kids put such a damper on sex. After all, a good romp in the hay is how they got here in the first place. In reality, though, it's just not easy to have spontaneous sex when there are kids in the house.
These six tips can help parents get it on, even when the grandparents are too busy to babysit. If your partner's not around to read them now, send them the link. It'll be a good hint for later this evening!
1. Teach your kids that parents need time alone to "talk" now and then.
Grownups need to have grownup conversations, and sometimes, that means quiet time behind closed doors. Teaching your kids this early on will be beneficial for many reasons, whether you're actually discussing the bills or spending some romantic time with your partner.
2. When your bedroom door is locked, it stays locked.
While locked doors may be a "no-no" in your house, there's a big difference between adults and kids turning the latch. Institute a rule that when you or your partner lock a door, it stays that way. Also, make sure they know that when that door is locked, you should only be bothered in cases of guests or emergencies.
3. Stay in your room really means STAY -- and it's not necessarily a punishment.
"Go to your room" is a common punishment among parents, but this can have a negative effect when you want your child to spend some time in their room willingly. Instead of using the bedroom for time out, find a chair elsewhere that can serve that purpose. This will help your kids distinguish between being punished and spending time alone.
4. Take advantage of a favorite DVD to provide noise cover.
As much as we hate to admit it, our kids love TV. Why not take advantage of it to have some sexy time? They'll be entertained, and the noise coverage doesn't hurt either!
5. Go to bed together at night.
We all have nights when we need to relax and spend some time alone. However, trading in a few of those evenings to go to bed at the same time as your partner can make a huge difference. Nothing makes the next day better than a little loving and pillow talk the night before.
6. Above all, communicate!
Sometimes, you won't feel sexy. You'll be exhausted, filthy, and braindead from talking to kids all day. That's okay! You don't owe anyone sex. Be clear with them and communicate how you feel. Before you know it, you'll both be back on the same page and ready to get down.